As you may expect, dating is a little bit different in China than it is in most Western countries.
Additionally, many Chinese men say they would prefer to marry a woman who hasn’t had premarital sex.
It’s not always about finding love so much as it is about finding a potential marriage partner who fits with one’s own ideals.
For example, although many men get married without a house and a car, Chinese women will often say that they’re looking for these things because that’s the sort of person who probably has a stable career and will be able to provide for her and their future children in the long-term. As one contestant on China’s most popular dating show put it, "I’d rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle." Every parent is different, of course, but in general Chinese parents expect to be more involved in their children’s relationships.
Under the new model, you hook up a few times and, if you really like the person, you might consider going on a date.
I’ve been reading about the hooking up culture for years.
As she puts it, “It used to be that if you couldn’t get a date, you were a loser.” Now, she said, you just hang out with your friends and hope that something happens. Girls get tired of hooking up because they want it to lead to a relationship (the guys don’t), and, as they get older, they start to realize that it’s not a good way to find a spouse.
Also, there’s an increased likelihood of sexual assaults because hooking up is often fueled by alcohol.” There is much to be said about socializing in groups.
This is a big part of why dating is often taken so seriously.
Chinese young people often feel like they don’t have the time to “play the field” that their Western counterparts are afforded by society.
That’s why if you’re dating someone who is Chinese, it’s very important you make a good first impression with the parents!
In general, sex before marriage in China is less common and considered more serious than it is in many Western cultures.
For a lot of Chinese people, serious dating starts after they’ve finished school.